If your teenager daughter comes to you and tells you she is pregnant, it is "not" the end of the world parents! It is definately a wake up call for her and for you but if ever she needed you it is NOW. Too many parents are more concerned about the stigma of what everyone "else" thinks and how it looks on them as parents instead of what their daughter has to be going through.
True, she messed up but don't you think she is paying dearly enough guys? Wake up! Be parents and stand beside her instead of hiding your heads in the sand. I know you blame yourselves, your parenting skills and wonder where you went wrong. Folks, it had nothing to do with you unless you were NOT paying attention and the ones of you who weren't know who I am talking about. What needs to happen now is for her to get some good advice from some people she can trust and she most definitely had some very serious decisions to make. You, as your parent/parents cannot make these decisions for her. I, myself, was pregnant at 19 years old and my parents forced me to give my child up for adoption and I have yet to forgive my mother for this. She and my dad sent me off to an unwed mother's home. Out of sight, out of mind situation was easier for them. Don't do this to your teenage daughters! They need you and they need you to let "them" decide what they want to do with their babies and not have anything forced upon them.
They have several legitimate options available to them in today's times. They can terminate the pregnancy, they can place the baby up for adoption as I did or they can raise the baby themselves. This is an extremely difficult decision and is not to be taken lightly. You as parents need to give them tremendous support and understand how much you love them so you can see how difficult it is when they are dealing with a life themselves that ultimately belongs to them as well.
The first thing that I would suggest is seeking out a reputable counselor that she would feel comfortable sitting down with and sorting through her options as an objective point of view from a professional is just what she needs at this point. Weighing her options very carefully will help ease her mind and yours as well in the long run. Alot of teenage girls who become pregnant will try to hang onto their boyfriends in hopes of making them take on this responsibility only to usually end up getting hurt and finding out the hard way that they are usually in this difficult circumstance alone or will intentionally get preganant to have something to love of their own.
Seeking a counselor will help them sort through all of these feelings and help them decide what is best for them and for their babies. When they got pregnant though they did not think about all the dirty diapers, the crying at night and the loss of social life. All the pressure to be accepted by the boy or to feel loved was and is usually the main factor behind the pregnancy and now they must face the ultimate consequence and decision that goes along with it and an extremely difficult one at that.
Your daughter has the right to decide what she wishes to do with her pregnancy. No matter what her decision, a counselor can help her through the strong emotions she will be feeling. Often teens who become pregnant drop out of school. Encourage her to stay in school. Many schools offer teenage parent programs to help girls complete their education. As hard as it may be, try to give your daughter your honest advice and your love. She needs it now.
True, she messed up but don't you think she is paying dearly enough guys? Wake up! Be parents and stand beside her instead of hiding your heads in the sand. I know you blame yourselves, your parenting skills and wonder where you went wrong. Folks, it had nothing to do with you unless you were NOT paying attention and the ones of you who weren't know who I am talking about. What needs to happen now is for her to get some good advice from some people she can trust and she most definitely had some very serious decisions to make. You, as your parent/parents cannot make these decisions for her. I, myself, was pregnant at 19 years old and my parents forced me to give my child up for adoption and I have yet to forgive my mother for this. She and my dad sent me off to an unwed mother's home. Out of sight, out of mind situation was easier for them. Don't do this to your teenage daughters! They need you and they need you to let "them" decide what they want to do with their babies and not have anything forced upon them.
They have several legitimate options available to them in today's times. They can terminate the pregnancy, they can place the baby up for adoption as I did or they can raise the baby themselves. This is an extremely difficult decision and is not to be taken lightly. You as parents need to give them tremendous support and understand how much you love them so you can see how difficult it is when they are dealing with a life themselves that ultimately belongs to them as well.
The first thing that I would suggest is seeking out a reputable counselor that she would feel comfortable sitting down with and sorting through her options as an objective point of view from a professional is just what she needs at this point. Weighing her options very carefully will help ease her mind and yours as well in the long run. Alot of teenage girls who become pregnant will try to hang onto their boyfriends in hopes of making them take on this responsibility only to usually end up getting hurt and finding out the hard way that they are usually in this difficult circumstance alone or will intentionally get preganant to have something to love of their own.
Seeking a counselor will help them sort through all of these feelings and help them decide what is best for them and for their babies. When they got pregnant though they did not think about all the dirty diapers, the crying at night and the loss of social life. All the pressure to be accepted by the boy or to feel loved was and is usually the main factor behind the pregnancy and now they must face the ultimate consequence and decision that goes along with it and an extremely difficult one at that.
Your daughter has the right to decide what she wishes to do with her pregnancy. No matter what her decision, a counselor can help her through the strong emotions she will be feeling. Often teens who become pregnant drop out of school. Encourage her to stay in school. Many schools offer teenage parent programs to help girls complete their education. As hard as it may be, try to give your daughter your honest advice and your love. She needs it now.
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